Stickin’ It Out

Recently Randy and I have been battling deep anxieties about determining the next “big step” in our lives.

Although Randy is dedicated to working with at risk youths for a non-profit organization, he is eager to work in his field of study, IT Management. He would love to find another job in IT, but we know how difficult it is in this recessive economy to land a job, and it’s even more challenging to switch careers.

For me, being a stay at home mom living in a small studio has slowly taken its toll on me and Evan. We often find ourselves feeling so confined in our small home, also because we don’t have a second car to get us out of the house. The restrictions of living in such a small space for me and my growing energetic toddler becomes more difficult every month.

There’s only so much freedom playing in the backyard or a walk around the neighborhood can give you.

If we reveal the dreams in our hearts, you will see that our family’s goals are for Randy to work in an IT department, to move out of California, and to settle our family in Colorado, where the lifestyle is slower and the cost of living is more affordable.

However, we understand that it’s just not logistically reasonable to uproot our family at this time.

My husband initially thought of looking for another job now, but that would mean he would be competing with all the recent college graduates who are willing to accept jobs for lower pay.

Also, my biggest concern is that even if Randy could land a job, even in his desired field in IT, there would be a lapse in our coverage as he waits a few months to qualify for health benefits for our family.

After hours of heartfelt discussions, we ultimately decided that although our hearts are eager to move out of San Diego to relocate to Colorado, the most responsible move is for us to wait.

We have to wait for a better time to move. When Randy finishes his IT degree with CSU Global in a year and a half, or even maybe before that, when he has acquired a couple of IT certifications, we will surely be better equipped to face a job search, a career change, and an interstate relocation.

Randy and I in the end decided that retaining our family’s health insurance is more important than his desire to change careers and my desire to live in a less confining house. Especially because we’re trying to get pregnant again, protecting our health insurance is inarguably our bigger priority.

In the meantime, as we wait another year for our lives to transform, we continue to have faith that God has prepared a wonderful life ahead of us. We know it won’t be easy, and our patience and understanding will have to be rigorously tested daily, but we choose to believe that a better life is possible for us sooner than later.

We have to just believe, support each other, count our blessings, continue to work hard, be patient, and always, always trust in the Lord that He will never forsake us.

Like my good friend Rowena advised, “Have faith in the Almighty. He watches out for you, your friends and your family.”

We may not be at our desired destination, but every day that we work hard for our family continues to be a step in the right direction.

DISCUSSION

  • What are some of your family’s life goals that had to be put on hold for better timing?

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Family Prayer to St. Joseph

FAMILY PRAYER TO ST. JOSEPH, PATRON SAINT OF FAMILIES

St. Joseph, strengthen in our family

every bond of love which unites us –

the marriage bond,

the love of parent and child,

the bonds of mutual love between all.

St. Joseph, protect our family

from every danger and from every threat.

Grant us peace, unity and harmony within.

St. Joseph, teach us to be

kind and loving towards one another,

careful for one another,

tolerant of one another,

forgiving towards one another.

St. Joseph, may gratitude for our blessings

and joy in each other

abound in our house,

as we seek faithfully

to serve and love our Almighty God.

St. Joseph, be a father towards this family of ours,

and pray for Mary to be a mother to us. Amen.

Praying is an important daily ritual for me, Randy and Evan. Every time we say grace before our meals or when we recite this prayer at night before we sleep, we feel closer to God and to one another.

When we offer our problems and thankfulness to God as a family, we always feel more at peace. Praying definitely helps us reconnect with each other, especially after a stressful day.

Whatever your belief system is or religious practice may be, I believe that many families share the same sentiment of this prayer.

I’m curious to know how you and your family find ways to reconnect with one another.

DISCUSSION

  • What activities or traditions do you and your family share (religious or non-religious) to help you bond and reconnect with each other?

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